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Have You Snapped with Your Kids Lately?

October 19, 2017 by Yocheved Feinerman Leave a Comment

Mom, Can I get Snapchat?

NO! What I wish I could say.

I hate Snapchat!

Want a lollipop? Can I buy you a doll, instead!

Simpler times 🙂

Realistically, I won’t be able to keep my kids off Snapchat forever.

So, I took the plunge.  Before, I let them snap I started to snap with my mom friends.

Now is the time, stop saying you hate Snapchat.  

Instead, learn how to snap!  This is how we can protect our kids.

Snapchat 101 for Parents

What is it?

Snapchat is an application for mobile devices.

Subscribers can send photos to other subscribers.  

Unlike, other messaging apps, Snapchat allows users to set a 1 second to 10-second expiration of the photo.

Snapchat users can express themselves with embarrassing and silly pictures.  

Without the fear of permanence.

How did it start?

Is there a better way to convey emotions in a text message?

This was the question of Stanford University students, Evan Spiegel and Bobby Murphy.

They developed the concept of time-limited photo sharing.  

How to Use It

Download the app.

Register as a new user and set a password.

Add your contacts.

Start Snapping.

Take a photo, edit it, add a caption or other “doodles.”

Select the friends to send the photo to and set a timer from 1 to 10 seconds.

Once the photo message is sent, the receiver has the time set by the timer after they access the app to look at the photo before the message “self-destructs.”

Friends can then take their own photo to reply or just send a message back.

Sounds Fun

Yes, Snapchat can be a fun and engaging app.

When it is used appropriately.

Snapchat has earned a reputation for being an app that encourages cyberbullying, cyberstalking, sexting and child pornography.

We, parents, must be vigilant and monitor our children’s activities on Snapchat.  

How to Make Sure Your Teen is Safe on Snapchat

Parents need to have a real, live, one-on-one chat with their children about the risks associated with the false sense of security that Snapchat may provide.

The Conversation

Talk with your teen.

Help your kids develop the critical thinking skills needed to stay safe in the digital world.

When parents, expressing genuine interest, teens are more likely to keep parents in the loop about all the cool technology they are using.

And. They’re more likely to come to you when they need help.

Setting Up Your Teen’s Account

  • Settings:  Carefully read Snapchat’s privacy settings.  Minors should use the default “My Friends” setting. This allows users to only send and receive media from users they have added to their friends list.
    • Personal information: Teens need to be careful about sharing personally identifiable information. Never share your phone number, home address, financial and medical information.
    • Protect passwords: Make sure your kids have a strong and unique password. That should not be shared with anyone.
  • Device-level controls: Avail yourself of the Android and iOS operating systems parental controls.  Use these to actively manage your child’s phone usage.

Digital Permanence

Teens love sharing funny things with their friends, on Snapchat, assuming it will disappear in less than ten seconds.

FALSE!

A snap disappearing is not an absolute certainty.

Our teens must understand that yes, your photo will erase after ten seconds.  That does not mean your photo is actually erased forever. Easily,  a screenshot can be quickly taken, or even a photo of the screen.

If a snap is illegal, it could get them in trouble now or in the future.

Would you want Grandma to see this picture on the news? A potential employer?

There is only one way an improper video or photo never gets distributed at-large.  

Do not put it out there in the first place.

Cyber- Bullying

Bullying is not tolerated by Snapchat.

Talk to your kids about cyberbullying.

Remind them to talk to you or any other trusted adult if they are ever on the receiving end of bullying or unwanted content.

Nudity

Nude pictures violate Snapchat’s community standards.

Teens need to know that exchanging nude or sexually explicit images of anyone under 18, including themselves, can be a serious crime.

If Your Teen is Being Harassed

If your child receives abusive Snaps from another user, they need to discuss this with you or another adult.

This user should be blocked.

Report them to Snapchat’s Safety team.

You can find “Report a Safety Concern” tab in the menu.

In the event, you encounter anything that appears to be illegal or dangerous, or if you have reason to believe someone is at risk of harm or self-harm, immediately contact local law enforcement.

Delete

Delete your child’s account by going to https://accounts.snapchat.com/accounts/delete_account.  

If you wish to delete the account without your child’s username and password, you can submit a deletion request at snapchat.com/static_files/deletion_request.pdf.

Stop Hating Snapchat

Mom, you know nothing!

You don’t know how to snap!

Surprise Kid! Mom Knows!

Know the rules. Understand the notifications. Make it private. Remove the location.

I’m on Snapchat

Parents, you have to be up to date on the trending social media platforms.

    • Learn how to use them.
    • Check your kids’ profiles.
    • Teach your kids appropriate social media etiquette.
  • Open the lines of communication.

We can’t ignore the Internet.

Mom, Can I get Snapchat?

Yes… but first, let’s talk.

What other social media questions do you have?

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Filed Under: Blog, Parenting Tagged With: parenting, snapchat, snapping, social media, teens

High Flying Mom @Modiin’s Circus Festival

October 12, 2017 by Yocheved Feinerman Leave a Comment

Flying High at the Modiin International Circus Festival

The 5778/2017 Modiin International Circus Festival was AWESOME!

Check out my vlog for highlights from the Modiin Circus:

Ready. Set. Go.

Yes!

That was me!

I waited on line.

Climbed to the top of the ladder.

And…

And…

And…

After a (little) push…

I was FLYING!

Thank You:

Hebrew Flying Trapeze!

Iriyat Modiin Maccabim and Reut

The Modiin Municipality

Mayor Haim Bibas

Elad Shiminovitz:

Member of City Council Youth and Cultural Portfolio

Alon Schmidt:

Director of Culture and Events Division

The Hebrew Flying Trapeze

Staff of the Circus

Police

Food Vendors

Photographers: Frances Arking, Jane Olman, Pesha Fischer, Heidi Lazarus

All the Circus Performers

Inbal Mayo

Photo by Heidi Lazarus

 

Photo by Heidi Lazarus
Photo by Heidi Lazarus

Stay Tuned for the next #HighEnergyMom Adventure!

Yocheved Feinerman, High Energy Mom, covers everything in Modiin from lifestyle, family, real estate and local news.



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Filed Under: Blog, Facebook Live, Holiday, Modi'in, Sukkot, Travel Tagged With: chol hamoed, circus, Modiin, trapeze

This Sukkot Fly High in Modi’in

September 29, 2017 by Yocheved Feinerman 1 Comment

Buy Rimonim ✔

Buy Yom Kippur Machzor ✔

Break Fast ✔

Build Sukkah ✔

Plan Chol Hamoed Sukkot Activities  ???????

What are your plans this Sukkot?

Yes, your kids were just on vacation.

Yes, you are still paying off your summer trip.

Sukkot vacation is quickly approaching!

No more procrastinating.

It is time to plan.

Good news!

We live in the great city of Modiin Maccabim Reut, the hosts of the International Circus Festival.

“Like every year, this year the circus festival is returning with great new performances that will give guests a magical cultural experience with performances that have not yet been seen in Israel.”

-Mayor Haim Bibas:

Entrance to the festival is FREE.

Yay!

Bring your whole family!

Come every night!

Pack snacks and drinks.

Best bang for your buck or shekel!

International Circus Festival

When?

Chol Hamoed Sukkot.

October 8-10 between 6 pm and 10 pm.

For the sixth year, the Circus Festival will be lining the streets of Modiin during Chol Hamoed Sukkot.

What?

The International Circus Festival showcases on the 13 stages modern, surprising and unusual circus performances from leading Israeli artists and performers from abroad.

Performances include

    • acrobatics and aeronautics
    • juggling
    • clowning and dance
    • juggling and fire performances
    • pantomime and theater
  • spectacular effects

What’s New This Year?

“Every year we think and prepare to upgrade and renew the circus festival with more ideas, performances, and innovations for the children.”

-Elad Shimonovitz, a member of the city council and cultural portfolio holder.

    • “Noyas Um” show from Brazil which combines contemporary dance, acrobatics, juggling, contact, and capoeira.
    • A-TA-KAI presents a surrealistic performance of huge illuminated figures flying above the heads of the audience, creating an avant-garde and surprisingly original performance.
    • The French show Ups and Downs a show influenced by the humor of Charlie Chaplin and Buster Keaton.
    • Hebrew Flying Trapeze the most colorful, spectacular and dangerous show of the circus.
    • “The Circus of Oz” will also come to the festival in an innovative and surprising circus version with all the familiar characters: the straw man, the tin man, the cowardly lion, Toto the dog and of course the Great Wizard of Oz.
    • A water-based show that tells about the mermaid who was born in the water and becomes a human daughter and learns the happiness and pain of living in the human body when the whole show takes place in a bath.
    • Local Modiin talent featuring  Snunit and Inbal Mayo
  • Nember Competition a competition with special circus segments of carefully chosen artists and artists. The winner will be chosen by professional judges.

Invite Your Friends

“The circus celebration is an experience for everyone and for any age, I invite the city’s residents to be Ushpizin in our international circus pavilion. ”  

– Alon Schmidt, Director of the Culture and Events Division

Spend Sukkot with High Energy Mom

I’ll be there!

Come find me!

Watch me fly high with the Hebrew Flying Trapeze!

Links

Iriyah

Street Closures

Modiin Info

What other free events are you going to this Sukkot?

Yocheved Feinerman, High Energy Mom, covers everything in Modiin from lifestyle, family, real estate and local news.



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Filed Under: Blog, Happening, Modi'in, Sukkot, Travel, Video Tagged With: #family, circus, israel, love love israel, Modiin, sukkot, vacation

High Energy Mom Episode #4: Buying a New Yom Kippur Machzor in Modiin

September 27, 2017 by Yocheved Feinerman 1 Comment

Filed Under: Blog, Modi'in, Style, Video, Yom Kippur Tagged With: machzor, Modiin, prayer, yom kippur

How to Teach Kids to Say Sorry on Yom Kippur

September 26, 2017 by Yocheved Feinerman Leave a Comment

I’m back! I’m off to shul for Yom Kippur davening.

Somehow I managed to find a babysitter, and am able to join my older daughters and participate in the service.

Things have changed.  

I am a parent.

I know my kids will be watching me.

Observing my intensity. Monitoring my commitment.

I’m going to let you into my secret.

I’m nervous about the authenticity of klopping al chet in the presence of my emotionally attuned children.

I aspire to teach my children to take personal responsibility for their actions and to apologize with intent.

This Yom Kippur, I have a strategy for teaching my kids how to klop al chet.

First Teach Yourself

As a parent, I want to influence and inspire my children.

Children can’t be lectured how to sincerely apologize.

Children have to be a witness to my process.

Children need to see and feel, and be taught the right words.

My kids need to witness my struggle.

My kids need to witness my humility.

Why is it so hard to say “I’m sorry”?

By saying “I’m sorry” my imperfections are highlighted.

I feel vulnerable.

I feel ashamed.

I feel a loss of control.

Through watching me, my children will learn.

Intention

How many times (a day!) have I begged my kids to apologize.

“Just say you’re sorry!”

No!

It doesn’t work that way!

What does “I’m Sorry” really mean?

    • My actions caused harm
    • I take full responsibility for my actions and their effects
  • I will make appropriate corrections

An apology is a declaration.  

    • I promise to try my best
  • I will not repeat my mistake

An apology comes from the heart, with words full of intent – kavanah.

Guide

Can children actually have kavanah when apologizing?

Children are born with the capacity for empathy, understanding, and love.  

Sometimes, they struggle with meeting my parental expectations and navigating social norms.

Sometimes, they struggle with recognizing the extent of their mistake and the hurt they caused another.

Sometimes, they struggle with translating these feelings into a genuine willingness to make amends.

I am their guide for mediation.

I am their guide to reconciliation.

I am their guide to the art of compromise.

Empower Them

Apologizing is a choice.

I choose when to apologize.

My children deserve that same option.

I want my kids to apologize with kavanah.

I hope to empower them to decide when an apology is necessary.

Yom Kippur Community

Why do we klop al chet individually and communally on Yom Kippur?

As I look around, I realize that I am not alone.

We are all trying to improve ourselves.

Children, we are on this journey together as individuals and as a community.

Apologizing is hard work.

The Golden Rule  

מה ששנוא עליך אל תעשה לחברך שבת ל”א, ע”א

“What is hateful to you, do not do to your friend”

Would you like if someone threw your toy over the fence?

Would you feel sad if someone didn’t save you a seat on the bus?

Would you like it if your friend gossiped about you on social media?

Treat others in the way you wish to be treated.

Let’s strive for ואהבת לרעך כמוך–

Love Your Neighbor As You Love Yourself.

This is what my children need to see and to hear.

Again and Again.

Growth not Perfection

I wasn’t perfect last year. Probably, I won’t be perfect this year.

Luckily, Judaism saves perfection for angels.

Humans can grow.

Before entering a new year, during Aseret Yemei Teshuva, I go through the process of self-improvement.

The blasts of the shofar on Rosh Hashanah take me back to the past year.

Offering a chance to reflect on my actions.

Was I a good friend?

Could I have been a more patient mother?

Maybe I should have refrained from repeating that story?

The teshuva process is completed as I stand on Yom Kippur and beat my chest in authentic confession.

Now, the new year can start!

Through this humbling process, I gain insight into my behavior, and I can use the past as an opportunity for future growth.

Without any explicit instructions, my children will hopefully be inspired.

Inspired to discover who they are.

Accept that mistakes will be made.

Confident to recognize them as opportunities for growth.

My 5778 Yom Kippur Resolutions

Pay attention to my interactions with my kids.

When I’m wrong, make an effort to apologize with Kavana to my kids.

I’m not going to force my kids to say, “I’m Sorry”.

Let them make the decision when to apologize.

Ask them questions.

Help them analyze their feelings and understand the root of the problem.

Encourage them to put themselves in the other person’s place.

Remind them that an apology is a promise to not repeat the offense.

In the merit of apologies from the heart, may we all be blessed with the capacity to forgive ourselves and one another.

What are your tips for teaching your kids to apologize?

Yocheved Pianko Feinerman is “leaning in” and embracing the harmony and chaos of raising four “spirited” children, juggling an active career as an educator, and writer while planning the next 24-hour getaway with her husband.   

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(Originally posted in the Times of Israel on September 26

http://blogs.timesofisrael.com/5778-the-year-i-will-teach-my-kids-to-klop-al-chet/

Filed Under: Blog, Parenting, Published Articles, Yom Kippur Tagged With: parenting, times of israel, yom kippur

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